Insecurity comes from the environment and also from comparison. First identify the source, then adjust expectations, extend the time horizon, and pull attention back from 'how others are doing' to 'what I should practice.'
Part of the column “One-on-One Conversations” · Chapter 13
Planning and retrospective are not about completing tasks. From the difficulty of setting goals, to methods for retrospective, and on to orienting around your own growth — a complete list of topics.
Part of the column “One-on-One Conversations” · Chapter 11
The purpose of developing a team is not to pour experience into everyone, but to make judgment, collaboration, and responsibility things that can be practiced, given feedback on, and passed on.
Growth paths are not job-level checklists but three expanding responsibilities: completing tasks, owning problems, and enabling others to do important work.
What we call self-iteration is not endlessly pushing yourself to go faster; it is seeing your goals clearly, observing results, adjusting your actions, and continuously recalibrating amid uncertainty.
Part of the column “Growth & Self-Assessment” · Chapter 3
Motivation is not manufactured through slogans or pressure. What a manager can do is distinguish whether the problem stems from the environment, the role, the rewards, or the person's own state, and offer honest but limited support.
Part of the column “Engineering Collaboration” · Chapter 5
Potential is not a label drawn from a résumé or a single performance. Rather than judging whether someone is "smart enough," observe how they learn, act, think, and recover from setbacks.
Part of the column “Growth & Self-Assessment” · Chapter 1
The worst thing for a capability model is to be treated as fog. Break 'where am I now, where are the gaps, where do I go next' into questions you can measure yourself, rather than relying on others to label you.
Part of the column “One-on-One Conversations” · Chapter 8
A team is not simply the sum of its headcount and abilities. Real growth means forming, over time, more reliable collaboration, transferable experience, and the capacity to keep solving problems when circumstances change.
Don't judge a job by title, busyness, or short-term evaluation. Look at whether it leaves portable changes in how you understand, spend time, and execute.
Part of the column “Growth & Self-Assessment” · Chapter 2
The worst thing about growth talk is when it stays vague. Break 'I want to grow faster' down into situation, capability, evidence, and the next round of practice, so both manager and report know what to ask.
Part of the column “One-on-One Conversations” · Chapter 4